So in the four days since my check-up at the dentist, the left side of my face is currently suffering the following:
An abscess which has formed on my upper gum right under my lip. Cheek has swollen up. Left upper lip looks like I’ve had a stroke. Oh, and lightning shoots through my ear, upper jaw, lower jaw, but only later on in the day..and when I try to sleep.
Currently waiting in the practice for my appointment in five minutes to hopefully resolve all these issues.
So that was both good and bad in terms of a visit, I’d like to make a point that I went to the same Dentist on Thursday and was told everything was fine, except about my complaint about the pressure on a tooth that seemed odd.
We ended that session with a view to “monitor” the situation because it was just skwiffy (not a word) white blood cells due to weeks of fighting colds, food poisoning, exhaustion, etc.
As mentioned above the four days changed that entirely with a horrible turn of pain. I did not get the abscess drained, I just got a bunch of antibiotics and collects some more painkillers.
Now I have an appointment for next week to check the situation, and a possible (I hope not required at all) private practice appointment for a $300 surgery (surgery, surgery*). I don’t think I need that because my teeth are fine, it’s the pain from this infection that’s screwing up my life.
To end on a positive note, the drugs appear to be working. I need to do the full course, but let’s be positive for once.
*Sorry listening to Repo! soundtrack.
This post is going all inception again.
I have just taken my seventh dosage of antibiotics and things are moving forward positively.
The left side of my upper lip when in the default position is only slightly further down than my right, it’s barely noticeable unless you’re me.
The swelling of my face has died down a level, I no longer visually “catch” my cheek, yes it was that bad, and pain attributed to that seems to have vanished.
Monday night I was brushing my teeth and nicked the abscess, causing it to bleed, I had used water with a teaspoon of salt to clean out my mouth immediately following this and nothing bad followed, so dodged a bullet. Or aided the recovery?
Yesterday my teeth weren’t in pain, but still had a feeling of pressure especially when I ran my tongue over them or brushed them.
Today I have no pain and can clench my teeth without causing discomfort.
In fact the only pain occurs when I do anything that causes the skin near my nose to pull tight to my gum, because the abscess is right under there. This is a big change from the weekend when I didn’t have to do anything and the whole side of my face was in ruin.
The antibiotics and 12-hour ibuprofen has been a big help I think because I’m just taking store brand 500mg paracetamol as a pain killer, whereas last week I was using Anadin liquid tablets that were supposed to activate twice as fast as caplets. And even when they did work it was only for two to three hours maximum before I was undone by the pain again.
Hopefully this means next week I’m going to be checked-up and out without any unnecessary, and expensive, surgery.
Two weeks ago a man in France was arrested for raping his daughter. She’d gone to her school counselor and then the police, but they needed “hard evidence.” So, she videotaped her next assault. Her father was eventually arrested. His attorney explained, “There was a period when he was unemployed and in the middle of a divorce. He insists that these acts did not stretch back further than three or four months. His daughter says longer. But everyone should be very careful in what they say.” Because, really, even despite her seeking help, her testimony, her bravery in setting up a webcam to film her father raping her, you really can’t believe what the girl says, can you?
Everyone “knows” this. Even children.
Three years ago, in fly-on-the-wall fashion of parent drivers everywhere, I listened while a 14-year-old girl in the back seat of my car described how angry she was that her parents had stopped allowing her to walk home alone just because a girl in her neighborhood “claimed she was raped.” When I asked her if there was any reason to think the girl’s story was not true, she said, “Girls lie about rape all the time.”
No one says, “You can’t trust women,” but distrust them we do. College students surveyed revealed that they think up to 50% of their female peers lie when they accuse someone of rape, despite wide-scale evidence and multi-country studies that show the incident of false rape reports to be in the 2%-8% range, pretty much the same as false claims for other crimes. As late as 2003, people jokingly (wink, wink) referred to Philadelphia’s sex crimes unit as “the lying bitch unit.” If an 11-year-old girl told an adult that her father took out a Craigslist ad to find someone to beat and rape her while he watched, as recently actually occurred, what do you think the response would be? Would she need to provide a videotape after the fact?
It goes way beyond sexual assault as well. That’s just the most likely and obvious demonstration of “women are born to lie” myths. Women’s credibility is questioned in the workplace, in courts, by law enforcement, indoctors’ offices, and in our political system. People don’t trust women to be bosses, or pilots, or employees. Pakistan’s controversial Hudood Ordinance still requires a female rape victim to procure four male witnesses to her rape or risk prosecution for adultery. In August, a survey of managers in the United States revealed that they overwhelmingly distrust women who request flextime. It’s notable, of course, that women are trusted to be mothers—the largest pool of undervalued, unpaid, economically crucial labor.
Pop culture and art are just the cherry on the top of the icing on a huge cake. The United States is among the most religious of all countries in the industrialized world. So, while some people wring their hands over hip hop, I’m more worried about how men like Rick Santorum and Ken Cuccinelli explain to their daughters why they can’t be priests. I know that there is hip hop that exceeds the bounds of taste and is sodden with misogyny. But, people seem to think that those manifestations of hatred are outside of the mainstream when, in reality, it’s just more of the same set to great beats. Hip hop has nothing on religious misogyny and its political expression.